Mr. Zenith came again & told me the differences between.. Passions & attractions.
Sometimes people often asked another being "why do you like me?" or "why do you love me?". S/he will answer 2 types of answer which is "the feelings" or "the personalities".
"Personalities", we answered because of you pretty, handsome, cute, lovely, caring, sweet voices, nice skin tone, brilliant, excellent, elegant, sexy, muscular, bla bla bla... All of those just attractions to make you liking to someone. I wonder, every personalities will have their own expiries time & when the expiries occur... Will we still attract to that being as usual as we do???
But when we answered "Don't know", this is a definite answer to someone's life. My theory tells me that "Love Is Blind", we like/ love someone without any deliberate thoughts.. We just follow our feelings & passionate within our very own soul. Our passive... It's like a lady shopping in the mall everyday. A small boy ask his parent to buy some toys for him. A smoker enjoy a cigarette after every meal.
We sure know if we love someone deeply, we'll accept all of their bad habits, weaknesses, worsts... Whatever you dislike. If we are truly love our dearest, we'll try to join them instead of change them or controlling them.
The keys to eternal happiness isn't "Force" but it was "Will", willing to accept, willing to change ourselves instead of changing them to suit with us, willingly to sacrifice..
If we wanting to change others so desperately, others will thought the same. In the end Mr. Stubborn will exists & create a catastrophe in our relationship. This is just going to suffer both parties.
But willingly to change ourselves & sacrifices for dearest, a treasurable love just might happens! ^o^
We sure know if we love someone deeply, we'll accept all of their bad habits, weaknesses, worsts... Whatever you dislike. If we are truly love our dearest, we'll try to join them instead of change them or controlling them.
The keys to eternal happiness isn't "Force" but it was "Will", willing to accept, willing to change ourselves instead of changing them to suit with us, willingly to sacrifice..
If we wanting to change others so desperately, others will thought the same. In the end Mr. Stubborn will exists & create a catastrophe in our relationship. This is just going to suffer both parties.
But willingly to change ourselves & sacrifices for dearest, a treasurable love just might happens! ^o^
Since you insisted me to post it here..
ReplyDeleteWell love isnt all about acceptance.
Acceptance just means every single thing and every single situation you must accept?
I suppose in a rship, you nurture both willingless and acceptance, then it only works. It also helps to bring a rship to a diff level (hem a more matured rship i would say)
Signing off.
Ahh, so u’ve started ur own blog heh. Personalities are likely to act as the impression given, as u were saying, externally. The thing about relationship has alwiz been easy during the early stage but bad closure. It’s about maintaining it I believe. U see, Bruce Tuckman came up with 4 stages of relationship, forming, storming, norming, performing. This simplest way to understand the stages:
ReplyDeleteForming --> is where the relationship started developing here onwards. Its where the spooning and wooing comes in, and in ur journal, more towards the development of feelings and impression – ur personalities. It alwiz begin with a good impression, for instance, clinging together under one umbrella when she sky’s dark and the floor’s wet.
Storming --> this stage is when both understands each other, and probably this stage determines the continuation of relationship, or otherwise. Many stops here, but this is just a stage. Americans has a divorce rate of over 50%, crazy isn’t it. Here is when both bring along their own umbrella, walking separate ways.
Norming --> well in this stage, if both passes through the 2nd, then both are starting to adapt with one and another. Afterall, its about maintaining a relationship. Adapting is about knowing one and another’s strength and weaknesses. Here’s when all the negative thoughts is removed, having positive mindset.
Performing --> ahh, this is the happy ending of a relationship, where both perform their roles in relationship after adapting to it.
If these 4 stages of RS could be done, then I think u have a lovely partner, perfect couple. Thereafter, its about maintaining a relationship. Foresee things, not just the 1st few impression where people fall for it, and likely to be blinded over love. The worst is the transformation love to hatred.
P/S: sometimes its easier said than done, but it serves as a guidance